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BDSM Meeting Dominates KSU Students

It is not every day I can attend a discussion and learn beard pulling is as much of a turn-on as regular hair pulling. The NonNormative AntiAssimilationist group held a discussion about BDSM/kink on Wednesday, Sept. 25.

The members of N/A are an eclectic group of anti-assimilation, non-conformist students. They are advocates for non-normative lifestyles in regard to sexual orientation, religion or spirituality. Each member is involved with advocacy projects that lend a voice to those in need.

The BDSM/kink meeting was about shining light on an otherwise dim and unknown part of sexual fantasies. The N/A group is about providing a safe place where students can come to feel open and accepted and discuss these types of sexual fantasies in an open and honest way.

Having read the “Fifty Shades of Grey” series by author E.L. James, I went into this meeting hoping to gain insight into the dark mind of its main character, Christian Grey. The book portrays him as a dominant, type-A, CEO billionaire hungry for power and authority. He passes his time having kinky sex with unattached women. Is this lifestyle only about men being dominant? Is this lifestyle for females as well?

BDSM is an acronym for bondage, domination, submission and masochism. BDSM is a type of role-play or lifestyle choice between two or more individuals who use their experiences of pain and power to create sexual tension, pleasure and release.

Intimacy was defined during this discussion as anything that brings pleasure to the people involved in an interaction. Regardless of how harsh “kinky” sex, bondage, domination and submission can get, in the end it is about two people being on the same playing field and sharing a “closeness of heart.”

Bondage, role-playing and toys were among the many topics discussed, but perhaps the most important topic was how to know when your relationship has become unhealthy. This type of sexual lifestyle is all about feeling empowered by your partner, whether you are dominant or submissive. The second you are not gaining anything positive from the BDSM lifestyle, it is time to make a change.

Members of the N/A group and participants of the BDSM discussion explained that it is important to communicate effectively with your partner about the boundaries and limitations you have with this type of sexual role-playing. Contracts and safe words should be discussed.

A safe word would be any word a partner says once sex, bondage, toys, role-play, etc. becomes too much. Group members jokingly threw out random words such as “bubble” as a safe word – that way there is no confusion on the word that means “STOP.”

It is important for students involved in sexual violence, whether by choice or not, to know there are places to get help or guidance. Students may go to Kennesaw Hall, Room 3429 and speak with anyone in the Violence Prevention Center, which can also be reached at 770-794-7858.

The BDSM lifestyle can be a fun way to spice things up, as long as things do not get too spicy for either partner involved.

For more information on the BDSM lifestyle or any interest in the NonNormative AntiAssimilation group, visit their Facebook page or website at http://clubs.kennesaw.edu/nonnorm or email them at nonnorm@ksuclubs.com.